Every Step with Grief

Our journey with the loss of our stillborn son

  • Dreams for a Dad and Son

    by Tim Scifres The journey of my life brought marriage and then children slower than many others. I was 38 when Jess and I got married. I was 40 when Flora was born. This led to most of my friends getting married and starting a family earlier in their lives than I did. As many…

  • No Parent Should Know This

    by Tim Scifres Since we lost Charles there has seemingly been an unending list of things that I had no idea about when dealing with the death of a loved one, specifically a child. I have learned that the Lexington Cemetery has Baby Land. This is Section 41 that is for babies and young children.…

  • Inconsistency at it’s Best

    by Tim Scifres If you look at the timeline of my posts on this blog, you will quickly see the connection between the pattern of my writing and the subject of this post. The timing of my posts have been bunched, then crickets, then a post or two close together, then quiet. It has been…

  • October 9, 2021: A Day I Will Never Forget

    by Tim Scifres In my life there have been few days that truly stick out and have become unforgettable. Days like graduations…some birthdays (the surprise party my parents gave me on my 16th birthday)…my wedding day…the birth of my girls (stands at the top of my list along with my wedding day)…losing a loved one…funerals.…

  • Grief is Like a Spider Web

    by Tim Scifres Throughout this journey of over four years now, grief has been described in some powerful ways to me. One of the most powerful was realizing grief is like a rogue wave in the middle of the ocean in the middle of the night. I have felt like that was a very appropriate…

  • I Miss my Friend

    Loss and grief are heavy weights to carry. Through these past four years there have been many times when the heaviness is real and oppressive. Thankfully, as these years have passed, there have been more times where the heaviness is not so fresh and overwhelming. However, this time of year is a time where the…

  • I am Already Thinking of Him

    by Tim Scifres Christmas of 2022 was a special time for me and my family. We were able to spend it with my parents and family in Oklahoma. My family has been very supportive of Jess, the girls, and myself. They have been there for us in every way they could. My mom grew up…

  • Something to Look Forward To

    by Tim Scifres Loss changes people. I mean loss changes people to their core. I have always used TV as something to help me decompress at the end of a day or a week. Sports have been something that I look forward to watching every day. When I was in college and had a morning…

  • Be a Show-up Person

    by Tim Scifres I recently found these thoughts I had written down around the beginning of 2022 a few months after Charles was born sleeping. I can honestly say my thoughts have not changed much in the last almost three years. I hope these thoughts encourage us all to show up for those who have…

  • Set-up, Don’t Sabotage Tomorrow

    by Tim Scifres Use today to set-up tomorrow instead of sabotaging tomorrow. In 1983 the North Carolina State University Wolfpack men’s basketball team who found themselves in a desperate situation as they began the ACC Conference Tournament. Their record of 17-10 was highly unlikely to make the NCAA Tournament, unless they won the conference tournament.…